JAMIE
Jamie was a standout high school volleyball player, receiving a scholarship to play at college. She chose that school to stay close to home. Jamie still wanted to see her mother, siblings, grandparents and her longtime boyfriend. What Jamie never told anyone, was that behind closed doors her boyfriend could be really mean. He’d insult Jamie, control where she went and set rules for what she could wear. Recently, he’d even become physically aggressive when they fought. He would punch Jamie in the thigh, but she always wrote it off as no big deal.
Jamie thought it was a phase until one night everything changed. He was furious that she hadn’t responded to one of his texts fast enough. When she tried to explain that she’d been busy, he punched her in the face. She couldn’t justify this behaviour. Afraid for her safety, but too embarrassed to talk to her family, she reached out to a friend.
- .....a sudden, hard stroke with the fist.
- ......a brother or sister.
- .....uncomfortable.
- .....a sum of money or other aid granted to a student, because of merit, need, etc., to pursue his or her studies.
- .....something or someone, as a person, performance, etc., remarkably superior to others.
- .....selfish, offensive.
TALYAH
"When I first met him it was good, he was my first proper boyfriend and it was kind of like a movie," Taylah says of the boyfriend she met when they were both 16 years old.
Within a short space of time, still aged 16, she moved in with him and his family.
"He started to push me and pull me. He would burn me with lighters, then it got onto hitting, punching and slapping."He properly turned into a different person about two or three months into the relationship," she says. "He would call me fat and ugly and he would call me a slut.
The boy told her that she could not return to her own family home and confiscated her mobile phone. Without the money for a train ticket and in the face of further violence, Taylah says she felt isolated and alone.
The abuse worsened with him hitting her harder and harder until, Taylah says, she came to a sudden realisation that she had to leave.
"I just woke up one day and I felt different, I knew that if I didn't leave it was going to end up in a really bad way. I didn't know if he was going to kill me or what was going to happen."
- .....made or became worse.
- ..... an immoral or dissolute woman; prostitute.
- ..... mechanical devices used in lighting cigarettes, cigars, or pipes for smoking.
- ..... striking sharply, especially with the open hand or with something flat.
LESLIE (video)
Unhealthy relationships can start early and last a lifetime. Teens often think some behaviours, like teasing and name calling, are a "normal" part of a relationship. However, these behaviours can become abusive and develop into more serious forms of violence.
Unhealthy relationships can start early and last a lifetime. Teens often think some behaviours, like teasing and name calling, are a "normal" part of a relationship. However, these behaviours can become abusive and develop into more serious forms of violence.
What is dating violence?
Teen dating violence is defined as the physical, sexual, psychological, or emotional violence within a dating relationship, including stalking. It can occur in person or electronically and might occur between a current or former dating partner. Several different words are used to describe teen dating violence: relationship abuse, intimate partner violence, relationship violence, dating abuse, domestic abuse, domestic violence, etc.
Dating violence is widespread with serious long-term and short-term effects. Many teens do not report it because they are afraid to tell friends and family.
What are the consequences of dating violence?
As teens develop emotionally, they are heavily influenced by experiences in their relationships. Healthy relationship behaviours can have a positive effect on a teen’s emotional development. Unhealthy, abusive, or violent relationships can have severe consequences and short- and long-term negative effects on a developing teen. Youth who experience dating violence are more likely to experience symptoms of depression and anxiety, engagement in unhealthy behaviours, etc.
Why does dating violence happen?
Communicating with your partner, managing uncomfortable emotions like anger and jealousy, and treating others with respect are a few ways to keep relationships healthy and nonviolent. Teens receive messages about how to behave in relationships from peers, adults in their lives, and the media. All too often these examples suggest that violence in a relationship is normal, but violence is never acceptable.
- .....going out on a date.
- .....past, preceeding in time.
- .....equals, people of the same status.
- .....a feeling of being unhappy and upset because you think someone who you love is attracted to someone else.
- .....occurring in many places.
- .....the crime of following, watching and intimidate someone in a threatening way.
- .....present.
- .....saying something to someone in order to have fun by embarassing or annoying them.
